There are plenty of stories of bad relationships between parents and teenagers every month. I am going to mention just a few that happened in March.
An 18-year-old from Texas took his mother's clothes and set them on fire. And why? Because she wouldn't give him money to buy marijuana! He was arrested and put in jail. Now he is finding out that the Law is treating him as a man and not as an overgrown spoiled child.
A 13-year-old girl from Florida, with the help of her 15-year-old boyfriend, tried to kill her mother. Was the mother physically abusing her or threat-ening her in any way? No, the young couple just wanted to be together. The mother barely survived. The young teenagers are seeing the Law treat them as adults as well. They were both arrested and charged with attempted murder. Ironically, in their attempt to be together, they will likely never see each other again.
Rachel Canning, an 18-year-old from New Jersey, sued her parents because, according to her, they are legally obligated to support her until she graduates from high school - whether she lives by their rules or not. She went on to say, "This means that they cannot put conditions on me being at home."
What were the unreasonable rules and conditions? That she be home by 11 p.m. and that she do some light chores around the house. How terrible, grossly unreasonable and even borderline abusive! Okay, I'll stop. What do I really think?... What a spoiled brat!
What about the lawsuit? Rachel wants to force her parents to pay for her future college tuition and to pay all of her legal fees. Oh, I see... I am going to sue you but you have to pay for it! This would be funny if it was a joke, but it's not. She also wants to force her parents to pay her $654 in child support, whether she lives with them or not... every week!
Thankfully, the judge in this case was thinking clearly and threw out the case. Stories like these were rare some years ago but not anymore. They are getting to be more and more commonplace. So who or what is to blame? The parents? The teenagers themselves? The schools? Peer pressure? The culture? Difficult circumstances? Answer: All of the above. But let's get to the heart of it. The parents are mostly to blame, having raised their children a certain way. But the children have some responsibility to stop being so selfish and immature... and just grow up! And the parents need to stop being enablers, and help them grow up.